I Love him Either Way
Geralda (49) is the mother of Luchen (23). She lives in the Soto neighborhood in Curaçao.
I LOVE ALL OF MY SEVEN CHILDEREN DEARLY, I HAVE FOUR DAUGHTERS AN THREE SONS.
All my daughters are attracted to women. They are lesbians, and one has a child, I think she is more bi-sexual. My daughters are rough girls. When they were children, I dressed them in girly dresses. However, as they grew older and acquired their own style they starting developing less girly, bolder fashion styles. That remains unchanged.
Luchen told me he was gay in 2014. When he had just told me, I was angry. Luchen is my only son who is gay, and I did not see it coming. His stepmother, which is where he lives, suspected it for years, but I did not have a clue. When Luchen came out, he told it to the most important people in his life; his grandmother, his stepmother and me. His father had died a few years before, so he decided to tell his grandmother, the mother of his father. She didn’t speak to him for two years. When they saw each other at family visits, she ignored him. I am pleased that they are on speaking terms now and that she is beginning to accept Luchen the way he is.
It took me about three days to get used to the idea of having a gay son. After that, I accepted it. People never tell me to my face what they think. They tend to speak their opinion behind my back. When they do dare say to my face that my son is worthless because of his sexuality, I tell them to throw the first stone. Because who is without sin cast the first stone is what the bible teaches us.
Luchen has had a relationship for three years, but he has never brought his boyfriend home. He could, but he doesn’t. My daughters bring their girlfriends home, and I am okay with that. Luchen has more trouble showing others where we live, because we live in poverty. He is ashamed we do not have the right furniture, that kind of thing. To me, our situation is not a problem. It is the way it is. Nowadays, we are on good terms with each other. Luchen lives with his stepmother in Santa Rosa, and I live in Soto. It is a bit far, but when he comes to visit, we have a good time. We love to cook together and do fun things.
I think when he starts a new relationship he will bring his new boyfriend to our house. As he is growing older, the way he looks at life and at me is changing. He is able to see things that happened in the past from a different perspective, and that is making us grow closer to each other.